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Eve Ensler Wants To Topple The Patriarchy With 'Revolutionary Love'

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Sick and tired of roses and chocolates this Valentine’s Day? Eve Ensler and the One Billion Rising campaign have an alternative V-Day event that might strike your fancy.


Come Feb. 14, One Billion Rising will opt less for cards and candy and more for awareness of the violence endured by women and girls. As it has done every year since 2012, the organization ― which takes its name from a stark statistic claiming one in three women around the world will be beaten or raped during their lifetime* ― will host a series of “risings” in over 200 countries that advocate for the victims of such violence and rail against the impunity that persists in its wake.


In New York City, however, the V-Day rising will be unique. Dubbed “Artistic Uprising ― A Call For Revolutionary Love,” the event is not only aimed at shining a light on the women and girls at risk of violence, but also on “refugees, immigrants, Muslims, LGBTQI people, black people, the indigenous, the poor” ― individuals who find themselves under threat in America’s present political climate.


“Activists will RISE against the neo-fascist, racist patriarchy taking hold in governments throughout the world, against bigotry, Islamophobia, homophobia, transphobia, anti-immigration, nativism, white nationalism, climate change denial, imperialist and capitalist aggressions, misogyny and hate,” One Billion Rising wrote in a press release for the NY-specific rally. “From Standing Rock to financial deregulation to the ‘Muslim Ban,’ activists will demand the new regime’s agenda be dismantled.”



In a conversation with The Huffington Post, Ensler, the writer and activist behind “The Vagina Monologues,” explained that “Artistic Uprising” will honor various marginalized communities while maintaining a particular focus on women’s rights in the United States. 


“We’re seeing an assault on women [here],” Ensler told HuffPost. “This administration has not only escalated [rape culture] but has really normalized it,” she added. “So we are rising for immigrants. We are rising for African-Americans. We are rising for LGBTQIA. We are rising for women. We are rising for everyone in this country who is under siege, which is just about everyone except for white men for as far as I can tell.”


The rally will feature performances and speeches by over 25 artists and activists ― singers, dancers, hip-hop artists, spoken word poets, drummers, gospel choirs, Ensler ― as well as a participatory project from the Where We Meet artist collective, called the “Ranting Box.”


Inspired by the silencing women like Sen. Elizabeth Warren (D-Mass.) have experienced under the leadership of President Donald Trump, Ensler and the Artistic Rising organizers are encouraging rally participants to combat hate with love.


“Everything that’s done is backed up with state violence on one level or another, right?” Ensler said. “Everything that’s done is done with an aggression and a force and lack of consent, right? A disregard for laws, a disregard for rights, a disregard for what people want, a disregard for people’s feelings, a disregard for people’s safety. And I think we have to model the opposite of that.”


For Ensler, the opposite of that is “revolutionary love.”


“We have to model listening,” she added. “We have to model empathy. We have to model being unified and understanding that anyone they’re coming for ― they’re coming for all of us. We have to be willing to stand up each time one of us is come for. And I think the only way we really do that is [...] with fierce, unabiding love. Just really give ourselves, for the most marginalized, who are under the greatest threat and to do that with love. To do that with generosity. To come out of our silos and our own communities and reach further than we’ve ever reached before.”


“Artistic Rising” will take place in New York’s Washington Square Park. It is the latest in a series of protests, rallies and strikes that have erupted in the city following Trump’s inauguration in January.


If you’re not based in NYC, Ensler has some advice for those interested in taking part in One Billion Rising’s events:



What we’re seeing right now across the planet is this determination from women and men to say, “We will not accept fascism. We will not accept hatred. We will not accept misogyny. We will not accept racism.” So I urge everyone to find a rising near you and to rise and dance for what it is that you want ― for the communities that are under siege that you want to protect.



*The global population is north of 7 billion, which would mean that a total of over one billion girls and women encounter this level of violence. As the group notes online, women and girls is an inclusive term reflecting all those who were assigned and/or identify as female.


Additional reporting from Alanna Vagianos.

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After 15 Whitewashed Years, ABC Casts A Black 'Bachelorette'

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America officially has its first black “Bachelorette,” and damn is she awesome. On Monday it was announced that current “The Bachelor” contestant Rachel Lindsay, a 31-year-old attorney from Dallas, will be the next lead of “The Bachelorette.” (So... guess it’s safe to say she doesn’t “win” Nick Viall’s heart?)


This is the first time a woman of color has been cast as the lead of the show, and “The Bachelor’s” only attempt to cast more diversely in its leads resulted in a fairly disastrous season starring the (very light-skinned) American-born Venezuelan Juan Pablo Galavis. Tonight’s announcement is especially notable given that the franchise has a long and rocky history when it comes to racial diversity ― a racial discrimination suit was filed in 2012 and later dismissed ― and that ABC’s Entertainment President Channing Dungey indicated in August that she “would very much like to see some changes” when it came to the show’s lily-white casting.


“The Bachelor” creator Mike Fleiss ― who for years defended the show’s whiteness ― had been teasing the big announcement for nearly a week, billing it as “historic.” On Feb. 10, journalist Amy Kaufman tweeted that she had gotten information that made her “100% certain” that Rachel would be the next Bachelorette. And on Sunday night, Fleiss acknowledged that the official reveal would take place on Jimmy Kimmel’s fellow ABC show the next night.














Lindsay appeared on “Jimmy Kimmel Live” along with Chris Harrison to introduce herself. “I’m ready to find a husband,” she told Kimmel. In the process, she spoiled the outcome of her own budding love story with Nick ― something the franchise has never before done with “The Bachelor” or “The Bachelorette.”


The response to the announcement was largely positive ― after all, Rachel is cool as hell.






















People also expressed some understandable exasperation that the franchise had waited 33 seasons of “The Bachelor”/”The Bachelorette” to cast a black lead.














Of course, this is no revolutionary victory in the fight against institutionalized racism. After all, ABC could have easily cast many more non-white Bachelors and Bachelorettes since the show premiered in 2002. But given that millions of people ― both on the coasts and in the middle of the nation ― tune in each week to watch the show, it’s important not to write off the impact even the most basic representation can have.


“The Bachelor” and “The Bachelorette” are shows that are fundamentally based in retro ideas about love and sexuality. The leads of each show are held up as relatable romantic ideals. The Bachelor and Bachelorette are meant to be normal, yet unusually attractive, people who can’t find love but truly deserve it ― because they are wiling to “open up,” “be vulnerable” and “go on a journey” which presumably ends with engagement.


That romantic lead role, a fantasy which draws in millions of viewers who simultaneously pick apart and buy into the lead’s love story, has simply never been made available to people of color. During most seasons of “The Bachelor” and “The Bachelorette,” contestants of color have felt more like footnotes to the storyline rather than central characters, with few even making it past week 5, which is usually the point at which the audience starts to develop an attachment to the individual contestants. 





With Rachel at the center of the franchise, viewers across the country will be buying into her frothy love story. She will be living out the “fairytale journey,” complete with handsome suitors, absurdly constructed fantasy dates, demurely coded sex scenes and Neil Lane diamond rings. A black woman’s love story will be the thing that attempts to “fill a hollowness carved by the ways in which our own romantic lives fall ever so short of the beautiful lies,” as writer Roxane Gay once wrote about “The Bachelor.”


Besides, Rachel isn’t a great contender for “Bachelorette” because she’s black. She’s great because she’s smart, stunning, fun to watch on TV, old enough to know what she wants from a partner and seems to really have her life together. She also happens to be a woman of color. 


In the next few weeks, we’ll see exactly how and when Rachel makes her sure-to-be-graceful exit. We don’t know how her arc on Nick’s season will wrap up, but we can be sure she’ll be ready to open up her heart to new love next month, just in time for filming. 


For more on “The Bachelor,” check out HuffPost’s Here To Make Friends podcast:





Do people love “The Bachelor,” “The Bachelorette” and “Bachelor in Paradise,” or do they love to hate these shows? It’s unclear. But here at “Here to Make Friends,” we both love and love to hate them — and we love to snarkily dissect each episode in vivid detail. Podcast edited by Nick Offenberg.


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New Platform Promotes Images Of Black People Engaging In Acts Of Affection

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Type in “couples in love” into a Google search browser and scroll through the images it yields... but don’t hold your breath until you see an image reflecting a black couple. 


That’s not the only web-based offering where imagery showing people of color engaging in acts of affection is scarce. The glaring lack of these types of photos along with the overexposure of imagery around black tragedy is what recently prompted activists and media professionals Michaela Angela Davis and Dabo Ché to tackle these issues and do something about it. So, they did.


On Valentine’s Day, Davis and Ché officially launched a revolutionary new campaign titled “Black Love Power,” a digital platform dedicated to promoting powerful images of black people engaging in acts of love both through their website and across social media. The photos, which are all taken by talented black photographers, seek to show a broad range of images of black people and the many ways they express affection.



Black is big, generous and mystical. Love is the most transformative energy there is. Power is what all people want. So Black Love Power, for me, is a reinforcement of, who we are, what we’re made of and what we have,” Davis told The Huffington Post. “In this political climate and always, it is a radical act, an act of resistance even, for Black folks to love each other boldly, out in the open-repetitiously.”


The “Black Love Power” platform essentially serves as a digital photo gallery that encompasses the work of talented photographers Davis and Ché have recruited and worked with.


Together, the two have built a network of over 50 black photographers who know how to capture photos that demonstrate the diversity, beauty and strength of blackness as well as their interpretation of black love. To help show off these images, Davis and Ché have also partnered with HuffPost Black Voices and will take over the site’s Instagram account on Tuesday to disseminate these images more widely at a time we need to indulge in and celebrate them most.




“I think it’s critical to have a broad range of images that express and illustrate our generous humanity and the profound diversity of our beauty,” Davis said. “The way black people demonstrate love-through our bodies, our style, our music, art, language, our food, humor, the way we love God is vast and mighty. The world loves to witness and learn from black love, we just want to make it easier for folks to see.”


The project it doesn’t stop with the stunning photography. “Black Love Power” aims to reimagine and reflect the many ways black love can be experienced and perceived. In fact, Ché says the platform aims to “make us less reactionary to how other people treat us and more proactive about how we treat each other and focus on how we want to build a sustainable future.”


“This is a platform where we can explore relationships, politics, sex, economics and all things that can positively affect ourselves, our community and ultimately the world we live in,” he added.



In looking ahead, Davis and Ché plan to continue to collect and distribute images that align with their mission in hopes that people will feel uplifted, empowered and healed in some way after viewing them.  


“And that’s not just for Black people. When anyone is exposed to love, there’s no room for fear or hate. Love triumphs over all,” Ché said.


Black love has the power to empower and energize everyone and the central mission behind this campaign is one that reinforces the beauty of black love and the transformative power it embraces. 


“I want black people to have a refuge and refuel in our profound indestructible love. I also want us to dip back frequently, in the soulful sexy we way we love. We love like Prince, Phyllis Hyman and Marvin Gaye,” Davis said. “I also really want people to know all the AMAZING Black photographers capturing time, ideas and us through a particular lens. And I want people to love one another more, bravely, sweetly and frequently,” she added.


“Black Love is a SUPER Power, we need to simply activate [it].”


Check out some of the featured photographers and their work with the “Black Love Power” project in the slideshow below. 


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21 Quotes That Show The Radical Power Of Love

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For HuffPost’s #LoveTakesAction series, we’re telling stories of how people are standing up to hate and supporting those most threatened. What will you stand up for? Tell us with #LoveTakesAction.


Love has the power to create bonds, forge community, ignite a spark that galvanizes people into action. Writers, activists and thought leaders have long used words to light that spark. Through prose and speeches and essays, history and her chronologers have taught us that love is a force to be reckoned with. 


To honor the radical power of love this Valentine’s Day, The Huffington Post rounded up 21 of our favorite quotes about love to remind us that where there is love there is hope. 


1. “Power at its best is love implementing the demands of justice, and justice at its best is power correcting everything that stands against love.”


― Martin Luther King Jr., “Where Do We Go From Here?” Sermon (1967)


2. “Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation and that is an act of political warfare.”


― Audre Lorde, A Burst Of Light: Essays (1988)


3. “Love is not a being word, it is an action word... When you see hate out there, understand that the challenge will never be the hate of some, but the silence, indifference and apathy of the many.”


― Sen. Cory Booker, Twitter (2017) 


4. “Love is life. All, everything that I understand, I understand only because I love. Everything is, everything exists, only because I love.” 


― Leo Tolstoy, Where Love Is, God Is (1855)


5. “Here and now ― I love you, for this moment, you have my heart. But you are not entitled to my future  ―  you have no ownership of my past.”


― Lang Leav, Love & Misadventure (2013)


6. “I swear I couldn’t love you more than I do right now, and yet I know I will tomorrow.”


― Leo Christopher, Sleeping In Chairs (2015)


7. “Take a lover who looks at you like maybe you are magic.”


― Marty McConnell, Frida Kahlo to Marty McConnell (2009)


8. “Life will break you. Nobody can protect you from that, and living alone won’t either, for solitude will also break you with its yearning. You have to love. You have to feel. It is the reason you are here on earth. You are here to risk your heart. You are here to be swallowed up. And when it happens that you are broken, or betrayed, or left, or hurt, or death brushes near, let yourself sit by an apple tree and listen to the apples falling all around you in heaps, wasting their sweetness. Tell yourself you tasted as many as you could.”


― Louise Erdrich, The Painted Drum (2006)


9. “I have decided to stick to love... Hate is too great a burden to bear.”


― Martin Luther King Jr., “Where Do We Go From Here?” Sermon (1967)


10. “Love is our essential nutrient. Without it, life has little meaning. It’s the best thing we have to give and the most valuable thing we receive. It’s worthy of all the hullabaloo.”


― Cheryl Strayed, Dear Sugar column (2011)


11. “I am too full of life to be half-loved.”


― Ijeoma Umebinyuo, Questions For Ada (2015)


12. “Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate, only love can do that.”


― Martin Luther King Jr., “Love Your Enemies” Sermon (1957)


13. “You will learn a lot about yourself if you stretch in the direction of goodness, of bigness, of kindness, of forgiveness, of emotional bravery. Be a warrior for love.”


― Cheryl Strayed, Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice On Love And Life From Dear Sugar (2012)


14. “All religious institutions, despite different philosophical views, all have the same message ― a message of love.”


― Dalai Lama, WGNO speech on religious harmony (2013)


15. “We must discover the power of love, the power, the redemptive power of love. And when we discover that we will be able to make of this old world a new world. We will be able to make men better. Love is the only way.”


― Martin Luther King Jr., “Love Your Enemies” Sermon (1957)


16. “Her love was full-throated and all-encompassing and unadorned. Every day she blew through her entire reserve.”


― Cheryl Strayed, Wild (2013)


17. “We know what the world wants from us. We know we must decide whether to stay small, quiet, and uncomplicated or allow ourselves to grow as big, loud, and complex as we were made to be. Every girl must decide whether to be true to herself or true to the world. Every girl must decide whether to settle for adoration or fight for love.”


― Glennon Doyle Melton, Love Warrior: A Memoir (2016)


18. “Love trumps hate.”


― Hillary Clinton, Democratic Nominee Acceptance Speech (2016)


19. “And I said to my body, softly. ‘I want to be your friend.’ It took a long breath and replied ‘I have been waiting my whole life for this.’”


Nayyirah WaheedThree (2015)


20. “Love is not just looking at each other, it’s looking in the same direction.”


— Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, Wind, Sand and Stars (2012)


21. “Loving you is like being 10 years old again, scaling a tree with my eyes bright and skyward, wanting only to get higher and higher, without a thought of how I would get back down.”


— Lang Leav, The Universe Of Us (2016) 


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Meet The Feminist Artist Whose Crass Comics Were Way Ahead Of Their Time

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“I’m so pissed off!” Goldie yells, sitting ― crotch out ― on the edge of her bed. She’s a wiggly, black-and-white drawing, comparably crude in appearance and personality, the creation of comic artist Aline Kominsky-Crumb. 


When Kominsky-Crumb first drew “Goldie: A Neurotic Woman” in 1972, it was the first ever autobiographical comic made by a woman. And as a portrait, it was far from flattering. Instead, Kominsky-Crumb funneled her deepest insecurities, most embarrassing memories, and most repulsive traits into her comic alter-ego, yielding a character who was self-loathing, vain, horny, ravenous and rude.


In one comic, Goldie kneels before her refrigerator, screaming to no one, “All I want to do is eat!” In the next panel she’s naked, lying prostrate on the floor, voraciously deconstructing a chicken leg with her mouth, pausing briefly to expel gas. In another, Goldie stares sheepishly at the viewer mid-masturbation, a moist carrot and cucumber resting at her side. “I’m fucked up. I know nobody does this,” reads the thought bubbling from her head.


It’s a breed of unapologetic, confessional humor that young women today might recognize in television shows like “Girls,” “Broad City,” or “Fleabag,” shows that make space for female characters who are sloppy, complex, sexual, or, as they’re often described “difficult.” But Kominsky-Crumb began working in the ‘70s, a time when there was no precedent for women comics whatsoever, let alone those who wished to break the rules. 



Kominsky-Crumb was born in 1948 to a Jewish family in Long Island, New York. After graduating high school, she attended the State University of New York at New Paltz and Cooper Union before getting a BFA from the University of Arizona. In the early ‘70s, she relocated to San Francisco, the flashpoint of underground comix where a male-dominated movement had emerged in response to the squeaky-clean censorship rules imposed on mainstream strips. The underground scene infused its graphics with sex, drugs and radical politics, but rarely included fleshed-out depictions of women. 


Not long after Kominsky-Crumb moved to Northern California she met Robert Crumb, one of comic’s most worshipped luminaries, known for his meticulous aesthetic, self-deprecating wit and exaggerated perversity. They were introduced to one another by a mutual friend, who recognized how much one of Crumb’s fictional characters, “Honeybunch Kaminski,” resembled new-to-the-scene Aline.


The two hit it off, soon embarking on life as creative and romantic partners. Since 1974, they have collaborated on comics that relay the details of their daily lives. The decades-long collaboration has yielded a dense and dirty chronicling of the Crumbs’ married life, full of self-flagellating satire, libido that only grows with age, and a deep, freaky love that all artists and misfits will yearn for. 


A retrospective of the couple’s work, called “Drawn Together,” is now on view at David Zwirner Gallery in New York, comprised of individual work from both Kominsky-Crumb and her husband, as well as combined efforts. While Crumb is well established in the fine art world for his artistic exploits, Kominsky-Crumb has yet to fully receive the credit she’s due.


For over 40 years, Kominsky-Crumb has chronicled agony and ecstasy through brutally honest portraits. A nasty woman to the core, she changed the game for women comics ― not to mention women comedians, authors and artists. In honor of her Zwirner exhibition, we reached out to Kominsky-Crumb to tell her story. 



What was it like growing up in Long Island in the ‘50s? What was your family like?


My family was really barbaric. My father was a wannabe criminal. If he could have been a “Goodfella,” he would have. But he wasn’t Italian. He was Jewish. So he was a total loser. We lived in an affluent, very Jewish neighborhood but never had any money, so it was constant stress and torture. My parents had no patience for children, but I had very nice grandparents. I lived with them for the first five years of my life. They loved me and treated me like a princess, so in a way, I knew it wasn’t me — that there was something wrong. But for the most part, I was an outcast.


How would describe your personality as a kid? 


I was depressed and frightened. So, because of that, I was the best student, behaved really well, and was constantly scared about what would happen if I did something wrong. When I was 8 years old, I realized my parents were not in control of anything, and I had to watch out for myself. I learned everything from reading and watching TV.


In general, I kept my ideas to myself and knew I had to get through school so I could get out of there. In high school I marked my days on the calendar like I was in prison. My town was all upward striving Jewish kids that all wanted to go to the best schools, all pretty spoiled and snotty. I’m sure there were other losers like me, but, generally speaking, I thought it was a horrible place. There was no creativity, it was all about making money and getting ahead.


Did art play a role in your life growing up? 


I started drawing when I was young. I had a very nice art teacher who gave me a lot of validation, which I needed. When I was 14, I started going into Manhattan and looking at art. I realized, then, that there was some way to find joy and happiness in life. Before that, I thought life was pain and torture and discomfort and... more torture.


Do you remember which artworks, in particular, moved you? 


There was a Latin American art show at MoMA and I saw a painting by Frida Kahlo that totally blew my mind. I really liked German Expressionist work too. Monet and Matisse ― all of it was mind boggling to me. I was turned on by everything. But Kahlo — the beauty, the suffering, the honesty, the autobiographical quality. I thought she was so much better than her husband and everyone else, really. 


Were there arenas outside of the art world that you found inspiring? 


Standup comedy. I was very influenced by a lot of Jewish standup comics in New York. Alan King. Jackie Mason. My grandfather was really into them. 



How much time did you spend in the city as a teenager? 


In the ‘60s I started sneaking into the Village and seeing all these hippies and weirdos ― people like me. The second I graduated high school, I left home, and life’s been getting better ever since.


What made you eventually leave New York? 


Well, I went to Cooper Union for a while. And then I moved out to Arizona with a guy. We lived out in the desert, very psychedelic, took tons of drugs. It influenced me artistically a lot in terms of color. Helped me break down that middle class value system. I got a diploma from the University of Arizona and moved to San Francisco.


You got your bachelor’s degree in painting. What compelled you to pursue comics? 


I realized I was more of a narrative artist than a visual artist. I wanted to tell stories about my childhood. Those are the stories I wrote about until like 20 years ago, they were all just about my family. These embarrassing, painful, incidents ― I was compelled to draw them. It was partly therapeutic, but, [laughs] I also went to therapy which probably was more effective. But I had to get the stuff out. 


When you started making autobiographical comics, no one else was doing anything like that. Were you nervous to expose the embarrassing details of your life to the public? 


It came naturally to me. I never thought about the fact that people would actually be looking at them until they actually came out. When I was working on something, it was just something I was really driven to express. I had to get it out. The fact that someone was willing to publish it was kind of amazing. I just dealt with the repercussions, I was never able to censor myself. I’m still like that. pretty much just comes out and I have to live with it.


Your comics revolve around a woman who is unapologetically insecure, grotesque, sexual and sometimes self-destructive. Is she you? A version of you?


She is made up of exaggerated parts of me that I blow up and push to the maximum. I drew the most sordid, unacceptable parts of myself. I’m not as ugly as I draw myself. But when I was younger, that’s how I felt, so that’s what I drew.


In retrospect, I thought I’d bring out the worst part of myself and see if people still loved me. I didn’t do it on purpose ― to shock ― but it was shocking to people. I did it because I needed the ultimate approval.


What comes first for you: the text or the drawing? 


I’m very story-driven. Stories would stew in my head for a while and sometimes I wake up in the morning and write them down. I’m always narrative-driven, so mostly I just have to think about how to draw the things. I’m not a realistic drawer, so it was sometimes a struggle to make the world look real. Later I realized, it doesn’t have to look real, it just has to be legible.



San Francisco in the ‘60s was the hotbed of the underground comix scene. What drew you into this world? 


I thought underground comics were the most interesting art form. They were completely irreverent, very personal, saying “fuck you” to everybody. I found the art establishment in New York to be pretty stifling at that time. Abstract expressionism, not very figurative, it was hard to tell a story. With comics, there was sex, there was feminism. And it was cheap ― meant to be read and thrown away ― the opposite of precious, fine art.


I wanted to do stuff that people like me could buy really cheap, read on the toilet and throw away. That appealed to me.


What was your first comic that got published? 


I was very lucky. I arrived in San Francisco when the first edition of “Wimmen’s Comix” was getting put together. There were no women comics, so they would put anything in their book. So the first comic book I appeared in was “Wimmen’s Comix 1.” 


Wimmen’s Comix was an all-women publication that tackled issues including abortion, rape, suffrage and queer life. How important was feminist ideology to you during this time of your life? 


The group of women I got involved with were rabid feminists, so I was forced to define how I felt abut those issues when I joined the group. There were two factions: militant feminists who wanted nothing to do with men and women who wanted to be strong and independent but sexy too. That’s who I aligned with.


The possibility of really having fun appealed to me at that time in my life. Sex was too much fun, I didn’t want to give it up. I liked to dress up, go to parties. I was wild and bad. I didn’t want to give that up either. So I controlled my life. I worked. I wasn’t anybody’s dupe. But I could have a lot of sex if I wanted to. I was very conscious of the entire feminist movement, but I realized there was an extreme part of it I couldn’t relate to. 


This is also around when you met Robert Crumb?


I met Robert right when I went to San Francisco. I thought he was great. I couldn’t even imagine reaching his level, it seemed like another world. When I met him, he didn’t know I did comics, and I didn’t tell him until one got published. When I showed him he laughed so hard he fell to the ground and that made me like him.


Did you notice a difference in how your work was received? 


I was judged very harshly when I started working with Robert. He had really loyal fans and I got a lot of hate mail.


Did you feel any pressure or pull, urging you to change your style, to make it more like his?


I am not capable of it. It’s not really a question. I thought the contrast of our drawing styles was interesting together. Mine is very flat and Robert is very three-dimensional. 



Being one of the few women comics in such a male-dominated field, do you think that helped or hindered your early career? 


It was a period of revolution where everything was thrown into the air. There had never been woman cartoonists, in part because women had never thought of going into that field. As a woman, I thought I was really lucky. Most of the stories I drew got published. Most of the publishers were men and they were really okay. It was kind of a novelty that women were drawing comics and people were kind of intrigued by that. I arrived at the right moment, because it certainly wasn’t like that before or after.


How did it change after? 


Women have produced such great stuff, so much better than what we were doing. Graphic novels are now considered a serious literary form, not a rebellious, underground art form. The quality of the work is really astounding. We started on a crude level. It’s become very refined.


Now self-deprecating autobiographies are such a source of strength and commiseration for women. Do you feel partially responsible for this? 


To a degree, I think so. People like Alison Bechdel [”Fun Home”], Phoebe Gloeckner [”The Diary of a Teenage Girl”], Marjane Satrapi [”Persepolis”] ― a lot of those women read my work. I think it influenced them because it existed. I had nothing to look at, no references. They had some point of reference from which they could start. I’m really proud when I see that. Alison Bechdel is someone whose work reminds me a lot of how I express myself. I guess it comes down to something a lot of comics have in common — a bad childhood.


You’ve spoken in interviews about the difficulty of aging as a woman. Do you think the process is harder as an artist, as such a visual person?


I was raised in a place where all the superficial qualities are so important. You never escape that. I’m also somewhat of a media figure so I’ve appeared on TV, in photos, and you are forced to look at yourself. I’m vain! I do yoga, so I’m extremely fit for my age. I don’t feel old. All of those things affect how I age. I have good parts of me about it and bad parts.


I’ve done some stuff to my face, injections and all kinds of crazy shit. Whether it’s good or bad I can’t really say. For almost 69 years old, I think I look as good as I can expect. The funny thing is, I feel better about myself now then I did as a teenager. Back then I thought I was so ugly, but I was actually pretty cute!


What is your daily routine like these days? 


I have a studio outside of my house that I share with a really great French artist. I just finished this book that’s going to come out, Love That Bunch. Now I’m doing drawings with marker pens that are totally crazy fantasies with people being devoured by nature. I’ve also been doing oil paintings, portraits. I like to go back to painting after I’ve done a lot of comic work. Comics are very structured. They’re very defined things. After I finish a long piece like that I have the urge to paint, to break out of that limited space. It’s very sensual, very meditative.




Do you feel compelled to make work that addresses what’s going on in the world, politically, right now? 


I am certainly angry about what is happening in the world, but I am not directly a political cartoonist. I am not going to write a comic about Donald Trump but I might draw something related to what is going on. It has to be about how it affects me, how it hits us directly. 


I can imagine it feels different being in Paris. 


I was just in New York and my friends are just so depressed. I thought it would be bad, but it’s even worse than I thought. Steve Bannon, he’s pulling the strings. He has said things that are right out of Mein Kampf. It’s truly horrifying. Robert and I have had run-ins with The Observer, the paper run by Jared Kushner. I think he is really an evil bastard too, hidden by his cute boy face. Eventually we’ll have to do something.


There are strong feminist elements to your work and yet you don’t seem concerned with being politically correct. What do you think about contemporary feminism, or even contemporary liberalism, and its relationship to free speech?


I haven’t lived in America for 26 years. In France, there is a different ambiance. I am probably less affected by those thoughts than if I lived in New York or San Francisco. I’m a very powerful warrior. I am very committed to yoga. A lot of what I’ve done later in life is influenced by that. I have evolved on a spiritual level that has affected what I say and what I don’t say. More than politically correct or feminist ideology, I think I am more influenced by the teachings of yoga.


What are those teachings? 


Don’t harm anything. I try not to harm anything. If I do tell a funny story, I try to put the blame or focus on myself. I try not to be mean. If I criticize something in society, it’s with the hope to make it better. I try to be the person that takes the blows. The yoga world has influenced me for the past 20 years. It is a powerful motivating factor. It helped me get through a lot. I wish I discovered it when I was younger. 


Are you observant as a Jew?


No, not at all. But I’m totally culturally a Jew, in terms of humor and my way of writing and expressing myself. I love Jewish food. I love Jewish authors. I’m a real Jewophile, but my spirituality is extremely personal. 


Your daughter, Sophie, is also a comic artist. Did you want her to follow in your footsteps?


All the Crumbs can draw. Sophie does amazingly beautiful, elegant drawings that are hard to describe. Very different than Robert and I. She’s a really great artist. She got so panned with her first works because she was our child. She was held up to impossible standards. She’s a very gifted human being. She definitely has something to say. But I wouldn’t say I encouraged it! Most people do not make a living making comics. We were incredibly lucky. We have always lived very simply. And now, Robert’s work is selling as fine art, which we never imagined.


If you could send a message to your younger self, what would you want her to know?  


That the part of you that knows you’re okay and they’re all assholes was right. Just keep on being a warrior. That part of me was alive, even then. That warrior part of me got me through.




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Heartfelt New Ad Urges LGBTQ People To 'Hold Tight' To One Another

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LGBTQ people of all ages are encouraged to hold their loved ones close in a heartwarming new ad campaign for the Australia and New Zealand Banking Group (ANZ). 


Released Feb. 9, the “Hold Tight” clip is intended to commemorate Sydney Gay and Lesbian Mardi Gras, which kicks off Friday Feb. 17, and the Auckland Pride Festival (Feb. 10 ― 26). ANZ is a sponsor of both celebrations. 


“We’re aiming to highlight what is a gesture that is difficult for many in the LGBTI community and turn it into a celebration of love and by asking people to ‘hold tight,’ when they feel like letting go,” officials wrote in a blog post on ANZ’s website. The company is also releasing a custom-made wristband, and asking customers and supporters to share images of themselves with the hashtag #HOLDTIGHT on social media. “It is recognition that equality has come a long way, but that it still has a way to go, and is a message to the community to stay strong,” they added. 


This isn’t the first time that the company has gone to colorful lengths to express its LGBTQ support. Last year, ANZ’s Sydney offices were re-branded as GAYNZ, while new “GAYTM” machines appeared at three branches in the city. 


The continued support doesn’t go unnoticed, ANZ! ❤️


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'Arrival' Author Thinks The Film's Written Alien Language 'Ought To Be Possible'

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When science fiction author Ted Chiang first got the idea for “Story of Your Life,” the fictional work that would eventually be adapted into the Oscar-nominated movie “Arrival,” he knew he wasn’t ready to write it yet.


“I figured I would put it on the back burner, work on my writing skills, and at the same time I figured I would learn about linguistics,” he told The Huffington Post.


Five years of self-education later, Chiang wrote the story, a deliberate, longish plot detailing a linguist’s relationship with a physicist, their interactions with alien visitors, and her decision to have a child in spite of knowing that child would die as a young adult. More personal and at times philosophical than its onscreen counterpart, Chiang’s story grapples with free will and predestination ― and whether the two concepts can coexist.


The film frames the story in the context of a burgeoning global crisis, where the emergence of alien visitors causes nations to cut off contact with each other. In the end, linguist Louisa’s ability to educate herself in a foreign language that can be read nonlinearly enables her to see the future and save the world from the possibility of war.



I think that a really good explanation is able to make people understand something which they couldn’t understand before.
Ted Chiang


“I think it made total sense to add a geopolitical drama to make the story work as a movie, because the story is so internal,” Chiang said. Overall, he said the film, which he had little involvement in adapting, came out better than he “had dared to hope.”


In the movie, directed by Denis Villeneuve and adapted by Eric Heisserer, the aliens write in a language that’s brought stunningly to life in Pollock-like swaths of deliberate splatter. Louise winds up writing a book on acquiring their language so that readers can unlatch themselves from linear time, too.


It’s an attractive concept, but Chiang dismisses the possibility of it ever happening in real life.



“I certainly don’t think there’s a language that would enable us to see the future,” he said. “But the written language that I describe in my story ― which is a full-fledged language, but it is not a representation of speech ― that, I think is possible. We have never seen anything like that historically. But something like that ought to be possible.”


Although he may not believe in literal linguistic magic, Chiang says that he’s “consistently interested in language.” He’s drawn to science fiction for the same reason he was drawn to technical writing, his day job. Both allow readers to see things anew, thanks to the power of clear explanation.


“I think that a really good explanation is able to make people understand something which they couldn’t understand before,” Chiang said. “That is something that I do as a technical writer, and I think that is something I try to do in my fiction as well.”







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Mom's Photo Of Two Sets Of Twins Is Pure Sibling Love

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A newborn photo shoot that did not go as planned wound up producing a magical image of sibling love.


Photographer Juliet Cannici and her wife Nikki welcomed twin girls named Gia and Gemma on Jan. 26. The couple were already parents to a twin son and daughter, Nico and Siena, who will turn 3 at the end of April.


“Nico and Siena have been so excited for their baby sisters to arrive,” Cannici told The Huffington Post. “They spent months snuggled with mama’s pregnant belly, talking and singing to the unborn babies. Now that they are here, they are incredibly gentle with them, and love holding and feeding them. It is so amazing to see.” 



When the babies were 11 days old, Cannici set out to take sibling photos of both sets of twins together. The mom rented cute outfits from a children’s clothing boutique and set up her home studio for a fun photo shoot. 


“I was so set on capturing Nico and Siena holding the babies in the outfits I had rented,” she said. “But Nico and Siena were SO bored with me, the photos looked terrible. I was disappointed.”



Cannici took Nico and Siena out of their fancy rental clothes and let them play for a bit. After playtime, they came back into the studio to take more photos. The mom laid them down and snuggled with their siblings


“They immediately held hands and wrapped the other arm around their baby sisters,” Cannici recalled. “I got them to smile by asking them to ‘act goofy,’ which they recently decided is just a hilarious saying.”


That’s when she captured this adorable skin-to-skin bonding photo. 



Cannici posted the photo on the Facebook page for her photography business, West on Jade Photography, where it received positive feedback.


The mom believes this photo captures her children’s bond with each other. “Several times a day Nico and Siena each say ‘I just love my baby sisters. I will keep them safe forever,’” she said. “We are taken aback by how seamless a transition it has been for all of us.”




Cannici and her wife, Nikki, have been married for almost 11 years. The photographer told HuffPost they struggled for years to get pregnant through IVF before welcoming Nico and Siena. “We struggled, in different ways, again with Gia and Gemma,” she added.


“I hope when people look at that photo they can see the true joy,” Cannici said of her viral image. “To see our babies all together makes me feel such happiness and accomplishment. The joy you see on Nico and Siena’s faces is entirely genuine.”


Keep scrolling and visit Cannici’s Facebook page to see more adorable photos of the family.






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Meet Volunteers Who Answer Love Letters to Shakespeare's Juliet

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It’s believed that the notes have been arriving for more than a century, with a photograph of some dating back to the late 1800s. Many are mailed to Verona, Italy, addressed simply to Juliet—yes, that Juliet, of “wherefore art thou” fame; others are tucked into the cracks of her symbolic tomb in San Francesco al Corso monastery. All tell tales of love: bashful first kisses, broken hearts, and enduring companionship.

In the late 1930s, Ettore Solimani, the custodian of Juliet’s grave, began answering the notes, signing off as “Juliet’s secretary.” Today a group of volunteers known as Club di Giulietta, or the Juliet Club, replies to some 10,000 letters annually. Leading the missive mission? Club manager Giovanna Tamassia. We tracked her down for a heart-to-heart:


On Romance Languages



“Once letters get to our office, we sort them by language: English, Italian, German, French, Polish, Arabic, Finnish, even Braille. We always try to respond in the writer’s language, even if that means finding friends or relatives to help. But there are cases, like a letter we just received from Mongolia, when no one knows the language. Then we usually send a short response in English. Sometimes it’s enough just to know you’ve been heard.”



On Objects of Desire



“Over the years, we’ve received more than just letters. An old lady in Sicily sent us her husband’s gold wedding band after he died. She wanted one of Juliet’s secretaries to wear it as a sign of their lasting love, which I did for many years. Another woman, from Japan, mailed us her diary after she got married. It was filled with memories that are best described as private, but it was clearly too important to be thrown away. She sent it to Juliet for safekeeping.”



On Playing Juliet



“There are about 20 secretaries in the club at any given time, but that number is always changing because people from all over the world join us for only a month, or even a day, just to have the chance to read and respond to letters! It’s a great responsibility to read so many stories about love. And being Juliet’s secretary is like leading a double life: When I’m at the club, I am Juliet.”

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Singer Honors Whitney Houston With Spanglish Version Of 'I Will Always Love You'

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It’s been five years since we lost Whitney Houston, but one Latina singer will never forget what the icon did for women of color in the industry. 


Karen Rodriguez, who is a former “American Idol” contestant, shared her Spanglish version of “I Will Always Love You” on Feb. 10, one day before the anniversary of the icon’s death.


“Whitney was graceful and elegant; her voice soared above the rest, never limited to one specific range, subject, or genre,” Rodriguez wrote on Facebook. “She broke down barriers and opened up doors previously unaccessible to female minority entertainers. And most importantly to me, she achieved success with raw and natural talent. No gimmicks. I hope you enjoy my homage to one of the greatest - Whitney, we will always love you!”


Houston debuted her rendition of “I Will Always Love You,” originally by Dolly Parton, in 1992 when she also starred in the film “The Bodyguard.” Rodriguez mixed the ‘90s version with the Spanish version “Amor Siempre Tú, originally performed by Maggie Carles.


The Latina singer is currently a Roc Nation Latin recording artist who became a viral sensation after her Spanglish rendition of Adele’s “Hello” in 2015. 

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More Archie Comics TV Shows Are In The Works

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Riverdale’s Archie, Jughead, Betty and Veronica may be hitting screens near you.


Fresh off the launch of the new CW series “Riverdale,” Archie Comics has signed an exclusive deal with Warner Bros. Television to develop more of their content for television and beyond, according to The Hollywood Reporter.


Considering that “Riverdale” has been such a hit, Archie Comics hopes the deal might allow for further expansion, as DC Comics has done with series “Arrow,” “Flash” and “Supergirl.”


Archie CEO Jon Goldwater told The Hollywood Reporter that the partnership will extend “beyond the traditional Riverdale crew of Archie, Betty and Veronica as seen in the current CW series.” Which means we can possibly look forward to spin-offs featuring “America’s Queen of Pin-Ups and Fashions” Katy Keene, the superheroes of the company’s Dark Circle imprint, and Sabrina the Teenage Witch.



“Archie is unique in that we have a huge library of characters that are not only recognizable, but they’re successful and entertaining,” Goldwater told the publication. 


There’s no word yet on when to expect new shows from Archie’s world.

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Adorable Girls Sum Up Why We Need More Landmarks Named After Women

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A new initiative is trying to put women on the map.


Created by ad agency BBDO, the initiative “Put Her On The Map” launched last week at AOL’s Makers conference. The project’s mission is to honor female role models by quite literally putting them on the map: naming more streets, landmarks and monuments after historic women. 


“Women make up 50 percent of the population, but most streets, landmarks and monuments are named after men,” the initiative’s mission statement reads. “By allowing this imbalance, society makes it harder for women to find inspiration and to see their own potential in the world around them. We allow society to forget about the accomplishments of women.”


As part of the project, BBDO created a one-minute video featuring young girls attempting to think of places and things that are named after women.


In the video, the moderator asked the girls what they want to be when they grow up; and their answers are evidence of how so many landmarks are named after men, not women. 











“We thought it was a story that needed to be told more broadly,” BBDO New York president Kirsten Flanik told AdWeek. “If girls can’t see it, they can’t be it.”


BBDO Worldwide’s president and CEO, Andrew Robertson, added: “When successful women are not visible in our world, there is no precedent for female potential.” 


We could not agree more. 

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Judah & The Lion Unveil Valentine's Day Video Premiere

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Judah & the Lion are drumming up buzz ― and likely more fans ― at the moment. The group is on the road opening for Twenty One Pilots, the hitmakers behind the single “Heathens.” And Rolling Stone just dubbed them one of the New Artists You Need to Know for 2017. 


Plus, the Nashville-based band recently contributed the song, “Only to Be With You,” to an Amazon Music Originals Valentine’s Day-themed playlist called “Love Me.” The accompanying video makes its premiere at The Huffington Post. 



Singer Judah Akers told HuffPost the track is dedicated to the loved ones in his life. 


“Sometimes living on the road has its many perks,” he said. “Traveling, experiencing, adventuring new places, and playing rock shows. But sometimes all you can think about is the person or family that you don’t get to see on the road. This song is for those people.” 

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Oprah's HBO Film Will Finally Tell The Story Of Henrietta Lacks

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The HBO presentation of “The Immortal Life of Henrietta Lacks,” based on the book by Rebecca Skloot, is slated to debut Saturday, April 22, at 8 p.m. EST.


Oprah Winfrey and Rose Byrne star in the film, which tells the story of Henrietta Lacks, the African-American woman whose cells were unknowingly used to create the first “immortal” human cell line.


Both the book and the film chronicle an investigation led by journalist Skloot and Lacks’ daughter, Deborah Lacks, to find out how her mother’s cancerous cells were harvested in 1951 with no authorization. Henrietta Lacks was a poor tobacco farmer, but her cells ― known as HeLa ― would subsequently change the medical field forever. 






The film will premiere in April on HBO.

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46 Award-Winning Photos That Show The True Power Of Photojournalism

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The heart-stopping image of the assassin that killed the Russian ambassador to Turkey, Andrey Karlov, is the World Press Photo Of The Year. The image of Mevlüt Mert Altıntaş, taken by The Associated Press’ Istanbul-based photographer, Burhan Ozbilici, captivated the world in December, and appears to have done the same with the judges in this year’s competition.


Judge Mary F. Calvert described the image as “explosive.”


“It was a very very difficult decision, but in the end we felt that the picture of the year was an explosive image that really spoke to the hatred of our times,” Calvert said. “Every time it came on the screen you almost had to move back because it’s such an explosive image and we really felt that it epitomizes the definition of what the World Press Photo of the Year is and means.”


 



The World Press Photo Awards recognize the best single-exposure photos taken in the previous year. This year’s contest drew entries from photographers in 125 countries. They submitted 80,408 images in eight categories. 


See the rest of this year’s winners below.


Some images may be disturbing.


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It's Time To Stop Policing Black Women's Sexual Expression

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Growing up, Samantha never felt comfortable opening up to her parents about sex. 


Despite being raised by black parents with a strict military and Southern Baptist background, Samantha, who asked to use a pseudonym, said her parents wanted her to know that when it came to sex, she could ask them anything. But as Samantha matured and her sexual curiosity heightened, her mom, who had Samantha at 18, became reluctant to actually talk about it.


“As we got older and it became a real part of our lives, she just couldn’t handle it,” Samantha told The Huffington Post. Sex became a topic both her and her parents tip-toed around. “Sex was never something I felt comfortable talking with them about or even seeing TV sex scenes with them in the same room and especially not when it had to do with my own sex life.”


So, she had to figure sex out herself. And though this is common for many women, black women often have other obstacles to face when navigating the world of intimacy alone. 


Black women can have a hard time finding images and spaces that empower them to unapologetically embrace their own intimacy. After all, the sexual trauma they can carry stems from a white gaze that dates as far back as slavery, and exploitation, rape and fetishization have since become synonymous with the black body. Slave owners would view black women as Jezebels, meaning sexually promiscuous, to justify raping them. 


This history ― combined with religious beliefs, limited sex education in schools and other factors ― has prevented many black women from openly engaging in sexual dialogue. Even today, when more and more women are being encouraged to take pride in their orgasm, black women are often left out of the conversation.


Dalychia Saah and Rafaella Fiallo also faced the challenges of discussing sex within their communities growing up; therefore they wanted to foster an environment in which black people could learn and engage in a healthy dialogue about intimacy. So they create Afrosexology, a St. Louis-based website aimed at creating a more sex-positive black community.



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Saah and Fiallo created the site in 2015 to promote self-love and to empower black people to take ownership over their own bodies without regard to society’s gaze.


This mission is important for Saah and Fiallo, who, like Samantha, received a lot of negative messages about sex growing up. Both women, who have backgrounds in sex education, noticed a sexual liberation movement taking place without black women and wanted to change that ― something for which feminist pioneers Audre Lorde and Patricia Hill-Collins advocated. Using their website and social media, they’re working to make sure black sex is represented. 


“Growing up, there was just a lot of silence around sexuality,” Saah told HuffPost. “When I had crushes or partners, no one had conversations with me about that and the conversations that I was receiving were so conflicting. I was getting messages from media and music videos that insinuated that everyone’s having sex and everything’s super sexy and black women are dancing and twerking in the videos and then comparing that to the messages I was receiving in church where sex was really shamed… there was no one I could just get the truth from.”


The duo use their platform to host traveling workshops on twerking and oral sex, among other topics; provide worksheets on masturbation and suggest books related to the black body, feminism and/or intimacy in hopes of sparking conversation among black people. Afrosexology also shares sex-positive artwork depicting black people of all shades, genders and sexualities on their Instagram ― a reminder that “black pussy matters.” The art shows that black people can be in love, black people can be romantic and black people can be vulnerable. 



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“What’s unique about us is that it’s pleasure-based education. So it’s fun and we laugh, we cry, whatever, but it’s a really different space,” Saah said. “We’re not just sitting there talking about what it means to have unwanted pregnancy and what it means to have an STI. We’re talking about things that people don’t have spaces to talk about.”


Lexx Brown-James, Ph.D, founder of The Institute for Sexuality and Intimacy, told HuffPost that just as society has forced black women to apply respectability politics to their dress, tone and hair in order to succeed, it has done the same with their sexuality. 


“If we sleep with too many people, we’re too sexually open, we’re whores, we’re not good enough,” Brown-James said. “If we’re chaste then we’re virginal and nobody’s gonna want us. And it’s trying to figure out what that is, I think that black women have not been allowed to truly experience intimacy.”



My orgasm is the biggest fuck you to white supremacy ever.
Dalychia Saah


As Saah and Fiallo note, there’s something radically beautiful and politically empowering about black women embracing pleasure and breaking out of the molds we didn’t create for ourselves.


My orgasm is the biggest fuck you to white supremacy ever,” Saah said. “Despite everything you’ve done, my body experiences immense pleasure and I’m going to fully embrace and rejoice in that. So I think, for me, I definitely see it as a form of activism.”


The goal is to get even more black women to realize the power they have to choose their sexual exploration journey without shame. Part of that is through their community workshops and love notes they ask black women to write themselves.



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“I think we underestimate the power behind talking to ourselves in a positive way because we don’t even realize how powerful it is when we talk to ourselves in a negative way. Especially when we’re already getting negative messages from school, from society, or whoever who say ‘your body’s not beautiful’ and then we start to believe that,” Fiallo told HuffPost. “There’s so much evidence to show that if you affirm yourself, if you use positive words… then you can challenge all that negative shit and really pull yourself up.”


Ultimately, black women have agency over their own bodies and platforms like Afrosexology, and women like Saah and Fiallo, urge black women ― and men ― to physically reclaim their liberation. It is, without a doubt, ours to have and to love. As Saah noted:


“How can you have economic agency, political agency, social agency, if you don’t have agency over yourself?” 





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Latinos Send Heartfelt Messages Of Love To Their Families For V-Day

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Valentine’s Day isn’t just a day for lovers. It’s a day to celebrate all the people you love the most.


NBC News asked young Latinos across the United States to talk about their love of their family. In the video, shared via Facebook on Tuesday morning, they share how their family has shaped them. 


“A lot of the times we always think about mi novio, my partner [when] Valentine’s Day is coming up, but we always forget about the people we really admire in our family,” says a Mexican-American named Perla. 


At the end of the video, each Latino takes time to send a message of love to their family.


“Thank you for letting me blaze my own trail,” Jennifer from New York says in her message to family.


Watch the video above.

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Love In The Time Of Donald Trump

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I’ve always struggled with love. Up until a few years ago, the idea of loving and being loved was a foreign concept to me. I’ve always been skeptical of love, skeptical even of my closest family members when they’ve professed their love for me. I still find myself slightly bemused when my boyfriend of two years tells me he loves me. I’m working on it. 


Because I know love exists. I know it exists because love has saved my life too many times to count.


Love has been the text message from my boyfriend at 2 a.m. saying, “How are you? I’m thinking of you,” when I have been deep within the abyss of suicidal thoughts, a bottle of pills in my hands.


Love has been my mother, showing up at my door with tupperware of home-cooked food and a hug, knowing I haven’t eaten or left the house in days. And love has been the messages of strangers and acquaintances online ― messages of encouragement, understanding and solidarity. Messages that have made me feel less alone in my deepest bouts of depression. 



I know love exists. I know it exists because love has saved my life too many times to count.



I don’t think I’ve ever felt more alone than in the early hours of November 9. I woke up bleary-eyed and confused to a world that had, somehow, violently shifted as I tried to sleep away my election anxiety. It was a world in which I felt a little less safe, a little less understood. It was a world that seemed, implicitly, to confirm that all the things that make up who I am ― black, immigrant, a woman ― made me less than; made me unworthy and unloveable. And not just me, but the most important people in my life: friends and family who are queer, undocumented, Muslim. 


There was a lot of talk after the election about empathy, specifically empathy towards people who had voted against or in spite of issues that directly impact me and those I love the most. I struggled with that. I struggled with the concept of extending love and understanding towards those who couldn’t do the same for me. There was no part of me that wanted to “understand” the other side, nor part of me that wanted to love.


It’s hard to describe the sense of helplessness and hopelessness that descends upon you when you feel like the whole world is burning. I didn’t want to march. I didn’t want to call my congressman. I most definitely didn’t want to write about what I was feeling. So I withdrew ― from my friends, from my family, from my boyfriend. I stopped responding to calls, to texts, to messages. I resolved to wrap myself in a cocoon of self-loathing. 


And then something kind of wonderful happened. The people who love me didn’t let me. They didn’t let me pore for hours over news items that peaked my anxiety. They checked in on me constantly. They sent me care packages, cooked me dinner, got me drunk. They bombarded me love. It was everything I needed to stay sane. 



I resolved to wrap myself in a cocoon of self-loathing. And then something kind of wonderful happened. The people who love me didn’t let me.



I realized something, then. Loving and being loved is a radical act. It’s an act of resistance. I’ve always believed this, 


What has been most important, most edifying, most vital for me in the past few months is being surrounded by love. Even when I cannot accept it. Even when I cannot give it back. Even when I cannot love myself. Those moments when my boyfriend talks me down from a panic attack, or when I’m completely broke and a friend takes me out for dinner and a movie ― no questions asked. Those tiny, special acts of love have been like shields against the news of every executive action that threatens to keep me up at night. They’ve been the armor that protects me from the anxiety and depression that plagued me before the election and has only gotten worse since. 


We can’t all be activists all the time, and sometimes being a fighter is about keeping your sanity in spite of an increasingly insane world. In the moments I haven’t been able to march, to write, to tweet, I’ve been able to love. I’ve been able to look in the mirror and, even for a few brief moments, revel in everything I am. And I’ve been able to extend that love to others who I know are hurting and trying to make sense of themselves in this new America. It helps. 



Sometimes being a fighter is about keeping your sanity in spite of an increasingly insane world. In the moments I haven’t been able to march, to write, to tweet, I’ve been able to love.



There’s a problem with that popular idea, “If you can’t love yourself, how in the hell are you going to love somebody else?” It’s a motivating thought, but it makes no room for reality. It erases the fact that self-love is a process. Self-love has peaks and valleys.


For the next four years and beyond, I believe in love. I believe in directing my love towards those who need it ― those who are disenfranchised, persecuted, underrepresented. Not the flowery notion of love and romance, not in pithy catchphrases like “love trumps hate.” Because sometimes, love does not trump hate. Sometimes, hate wins. It’s in those moments, now more than ever, that we need to cling to the idea of acts of kindness towards ourselves and others as radical, revolutionary acts.


 


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A creative dad gave his daughter a Valentine’s Day surprise she’ll never forget.


Photographer and father of two Josh Rossi transformed his 3-year-old daughter Nellee into Belle from “Beauty and the Beast” for a fun themed photo shoot.



“Anything Disney is so magical and amazing,” Rossi told The Huffington Post. “I loved the ‘Beauty and the Beast’ movie when I was a kid because of the love they both shared.” 


The dad has a tradition of organizing photo shoots for Nellee for holidays, birthdays and other special occasions. In the past, she has dressed up as Wonder Woman and Little Red Riding Hood.


Nellee has been excitedly awaiting the new live action version of the movie, so Rossi decided Belle would be the perfect character for a shoot around Valentine’s Day.



The whole process took about a month. While on vacation in Europe, Rossi took photos to serve as the backgrounds, including a shot of Neuschwanstein Castle in Germany, which was reportedly the inspiration for the famous castle in Disneyland. Costume designer Ella Dynae made custom dresses for Nellee. 


Rossi documented the process for a behind-the-scenes video he released on Monday.





On Valentine’s Day, the dad presented Nellee with the finished product and gave her a special print of one of their photos.


“She loved the print I gave her so much!” said Rossi. “She kept jumping up and down and kept smiling. She also couldn’t stop looking at the full series of images. Right after I gave her the print this morning, she started singing the songs from the movie.”



Rossi said he loves having the opportunity to create something with his daughter based around a story they both love. 


“As parents, usually we are just playing games our kids like,” he said. “This time we play a game we both truly love ― which is taking magical pictures together.”



He added, “My wife loves it too. She booked all of the locations in Europe for me and got the costumes and whatever else we needed. It’s sort of a family event.”


The dad hopes other fathers will appreciate the project as well. Said Rossi, “I honestly hope that dads will get inspired to spend more time with their daughters and find something they can do together to connect.”


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